Kate Leto:

Emotional self control is “the ability to remain calm and clear-headed during a stressful situation or crisis.” In other words, it’s the ability to handle our own disruptive emotions—not to ignore or deny them.

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Emotional self control is also linked to resilience. When we have more emotional self control, we can more easily bounce back from negative situations. And again, we’re sending the signal to our teams that setbacks are inevitable, but we have agency over how we respond and adapt to them.